Family Reset: Reset Your Family’s Mind, Body, and Soul
Life coach Dr. Chris Wylie offers six tips on how to reset your family’s mind, body, and soul this summer.
1. Create a to-do list and take out the bottom five. If you’re like every mother and father in the country, your life is full of drop-offs, pickups, time schedules, and planned activities. With so much family stuff, you may need to reevaluate what activities are necessary to include and which ones can be eliminated. You may need to stop doing some of the least important things—the things that, if you are honest, really don’t matter that much. Don’t hold yourself to the “perfect” standards. And set a limit for how many times you will check inboxes, Facebook, Twitter, etc. per day. Checking on stuff all the time creates a lot of stress. And learn to say no if you really don’t have the time.
2. Make time for your family to relax. I like working out to release tensions and recharge during the day. What works for you? Long walks, music, yoga, meditation, or going for a swim? Find out, and do what works for you! Now the trick is to allow each family member to choose which relaxation activity works for him or her and commit to doing it every day.
3. When it comes to family decisions, don’t sweat the small stuff. When facing what looks like the end of the world, ask yourself questions like does this really matter? If I do this, then what will happen? If I don’t do this, then what will happen? These questions help you zoom out and realize that in most cases, things aren’t really that bad.
4. Make it a family rule to stop rushing to do everything. If your family learns how to slow down while walking, moving the body, or talking, everyone will start to feel less stressed compared to families that always live in a state of panic. Slowing down to decrease stress goes for many other things you do in everyday life too, like riding your bicycle, driving the car, working at your desk, and eating.
5. Get rid of things you just don’t use anymore. Take one day and have the entire family declutter every room in the house. A simplified and ordered home brings clarity and order to the mind. Taking the time for everyone to go through each room in the house and declutter will simplify and organize your home and everyone’s life to live in a more relaxing environment.
6. Allow each family member to forgive one person everyone week that has hurt them in the past. If something negative from the past, such as something someone said or did, is in your mind, then accept and let that feeling and thought in instead of trying to push it away. When it is there and you accept it, then it starts to lose power. And while the facts may still be there in your head, the negative feelings are much less powerful, or they may be gone completely. At this point, let the thing go like a bag of old clothes you’re tossing out. Direct your focus to the present moment and something better instead.